ON RUINED LIFE

An act of rape ruins whole of victims’ life forever. Then no matter what & who went wrong; no amount of discussions, thinking, and action can ever fill even tiniest void. A look at on why one thinks of rape, sexual intercourse without consent of the woman, may be like...

If we understand the nature it would be easier to acknowledge the facts & reasons. It is just instinct that all the male animals develop orgasm by way of sight of the female animal, whilst all the female animals do so by touch. So it is applicable to human being as well. It is also truth that male take undue advantage of their physical strength & status & exploit female in almost all the species, not only in human being.

Being civilized human being, first & foremost thing is we all irrespective of being man or woman must observe constraints, decency & perseverance in society. Every man must keep in mind about the severe punishment, devastation of his own social status & tons of humiliation post rape. These are all social aspects & not instinct which he’s carried since birth. So, even by mistake or error a man is likely to forget, over-react, feel strong or get fooled & indulge in the act of rape purposefully or instinctively.

Females are attractive & try to look still more attractive by nature. Thus a woman, guided by nature, is like so. Yet, considering diversity in social status, economy & intellectual levels, woman must give a thought to decency in clothing. It doesn’t mean that only half necked women are raped. Yet, a woman can protect herself up to a great extent by clothing apart from keeping safe distance from all the men around. With all those news pouring in, one could say with great disbelief that, a woman in many parts of the society is not safe even at the hands of her own father, brother or close relative. Keep herself fit to take on eventuality till help arrives, arm with weapons, chilly powder,….

Observed of late, commodity behavior is on rise? It was tough decision earlier to get rid of old furniture or so; all credit goes to the emotional attachments. Now a days, forget the furniture even men & women have become commodity. They have been nurturing themselves as commodity if slight exaggeration is allowed. Say, enormous expenditure incurred on clothing, shoes, toiletries, make ups etc. etc. With increment in financial independence consumerism is rising up like hell. Gone are the days of good behaving spouse, the upcoming culture is matching spouse by external looks of course.

There are various other aspects too to take into consideration. The so called idea of free sex, rise in pornography, half necked dances in films & in reality, unnecessary proximity. This all doesn’t mean that the women be remain behind veil & man to cover his eyes. Rapes are predominant yesterday too. The difference is, media wasn’t so omnipresent then. Even today, most of the cases are hushed up considering devastating consequences even if the culprit is hanged till death. Since, a raped woman has lost her sanctity; no one would accept it in the core of heart or behind the doors. Yet, outside a raped woman is trash & unfit to live. Give passing thought on rapes within marriage since rape is so if it is without victims’ consent.

By

Vijay Yelmelwar